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#162341 - 03/21/08 10:48 PM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: truthseeker007]
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Benevolent Physician
Registered: 04/07/00
Posts: 5833
Loc: Sydney,Australia
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At first I prayed for light:
Could I but see the way,
How gladly, swiftly would I walk
To everlasting day!
And next I prayed for strength:
That I might tread the road
With firm, unfaltering feet, and win
The heavens’ serene abode.
And then I prayed for faith:
Could I but trust my God,
I’d live infolded in His peace,
Though foes were all abroad.
But now I pray for love:
Deep love to God and man;
A living love that will not fail,
However dark His plan.
And light and strength and faith
Are opening everywhere!
God waited patiently until
I prayed the larger prayer.
I have not quoted this well known hymn to be judgemental, in any way, TruthSeeker. But from personal experience, I know we can pray specific prayers that may not be in God's plan for us. I will pray that His will for you may become apparent.
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#162343 - 03/21/08 11:19 PM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: Nan]
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Registered: 12/15/07
Posts: 253
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Thanks Nan i appreciate that
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#162350 - 03/22/08 12:54 AM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: truthseeker007]
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Princess of Pasadena
Registered: 12/29/01
Posts: 2387
Loc: California
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The hymn Nan quoted is perfect. It's right on point.
Sometimes we pray and feel our prayers aren't heard -- but it's just that God is answering them in a way we didn't expect.
You've already experienced the best start to rebuilding your life -- you're talking to your HUSBAND, and he's talking with you! That's the best way to work out problems in the home.
And I can tell you from long experience that divorce should not even be considered until everything else has failed. Divorce for those two darling children (3 years old and 8 months, wasn't it?) would be absolutely devastating. What they need now, most of all, is TWO PARENTS. You and your husband should make a pact that you will never fight in the presence of the children, and that you will each play with them and take care of them together as much as possible. If they have a good daddy and a good mommy, they have a chance of growing up as into healthy adults.
God bless you. Keep up the good work!
_________________________
Jeannie
...Change is inevitable; growth is optional....
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#162352 - 03/22/08 01:03 AM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: Jeannieb43]
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Beginning to post a bit...
Registered: 03/14/08
Posts: 9
Loc: Montreal, Canada
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The hymn Nan quoted is perfect. It's right on point.
Sometimes we pray and feel our prayers aren't heard -- but it's just that God is answering them in a way we didn't expect.
You've already experienced the best start to rebuilding your life -- you're talking to your HUSBAND, and he's talking with you! That's the best way to work out problems in the home.
And I can tell you from long experience that divorce should not even be considered until everything else has failed. Divorce for those two darling children (3 years old and 8 months, wasn't it?) would be absolutely devastating. What they need now, most of all, is TWO PARENTS. You and your husband should make a pact that you will never fight in the presence of the children, and that you will each play with them and take care of them together as much as possible. If they have a good daddy and a good mommy, they have a chance of growing up as into healthy adults.
God bless you. Keep up the good work!
Thank you Jeannie for those encouraging words. My hubby is a tough cookie so I am praying that God will soften his heart. I am fighting with all my strength for this marriage because I know we can make it. If God is in control, how can we fail? And if we can both see it that way, we have many years of happiness to come. But that right now is our challenge. My prayer is that we will both seek Him, individually, but more as a family, for our children to see that we believe in something so wonderful!! Thank you all for your continual prayers, I feel the spirit working over here!
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#162354 - 03/22/08 01:15 AM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: giselle831]
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Registered: 03/16/08
Posts: 58
Loc: Planet Earth
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One suggestion. Though I don't think that yelling, screaming, threatening, name calling, insulting, or other forms of fighting in front of the kids are at all appropriate (nor are they adult at all behind closed doors), I would like to encourage mature, calm, decent problem-solving in front of any kids over the age of about 7. God knows, they need the good example, or else they'll never learn how to do that right by the time they're adults and they find themselves in hard situations. I was raised being exposed to all the wrong stuff, and none of the right stuff, and it's only served to hurt me socially and in the romance department as well. I've been learning, the hard way, over the last almost 33 years, but really, it's stupid for it to have to take that long just to learn basic problem solving skills. Just my 2c worth.
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#163307 - 03/28/08 04:55 PM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: giselle831]
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Getting the hang of posting
Registered: 03/23/08
Posts: 43
Loc: Orlando, FL
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You two should go to counseling. Whether a Christian one or not, it always helps to talk to a neutral third party. It may help to make things more peaceful. Also, so many women have anger issues that it drives the man out of the house. Something to think about.
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#163681 - 03/29/08 11:35 PM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: Tallmark]
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Registered: 03/20/00
Posts: 7225
Loc: Wilkesboro, NC
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You two should go to counseling. Whether a Christian one or not, it always helps to talk to a neutral third party. It may help to make things more peaceful. Also, so many women have anger issues that it drives the man out of the house. Something to think about.
My problem with a non-Christian counselor is this: The counselor may think that the problem in the relationship IS their religion, which then would/could lead to counsels that are anti-religion and would draw them farther away from God.Gerry
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#163713 - 03/30/08 04:17 AM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: truthseeker007]
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Am new here....
Registered: 03/30/08
Posts: 1
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" All the troubles in the world are a result of God's passivity"
I have to completely disagree.
All the troubles in the world are mostly a result of OUR passivity.
We see the hunger, diseases, wars, and atrocities and wonder why God isn't doing anything about it..... He must ask us the same question.
Edited by Nia (03/30/08 04:23 AM)
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#163716 - 03/30/08 04:41 AM
Re: Don't know what to do...
[Re: Nia]
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Carpe Diem!!!
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" We see the hunger, diseases, wars, and atrocities and wonder why God isn't doing anything about it..... He must ask us the same question. O that is soooo powerful of a thought.... Thank you...
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