Worst Breakup

[Gail]

Well, here is one we can all relate to!

What was your worst breakup? Was it that high school sweetheart or puppy love?

Was it the proposal that didn't get accepted?

Was it the love that could never be?

[Bravus]

When I was 12, I think, we went on a trip to New Zealand with our Pathfinder group. I had been going out with my girlfriend at the time for some time, and was looking forward to spending time with her on the trip, but apparently she had other ideas, and broke up with me on the eve of the trip, or possibly even during the early stages of it. I was disappointed, but not really all that devastated.

I remember one of the things she did for fundraising was baking fresh bread, and I would ride to her place on my bike to pick it up, and chat with her on the doorstep for ages, to the amusement but sometimes irritation of her parents. Ah, young love... but neither my 12 or 15 year old has had a boyfriend yet, and I'm pleased about that... were we all that precocious in those days?

[Jeannieb43]

LOL, That's a good story, Bravus!

And the answer to your question is (I think): NO. WE weren't all precocious. YOU were precocious!!

My worst breakup was my divorce, at 35-plus years of age. But that was long ago, and now dim in my memory. Don't need to rake up those sad memories, because life today is so much better than it ever could have been without that experience!

[Nicodema]

A guy I went with for 2-3 months in 7th grade, who broke up with me using the bogus excuse that I was "not his type". I was like what the %^$& does THAT mean? What it meant, most likely, was that his buddy didn't approve of him dating me, probably because I wasn't "good enough" socially (wasn't one of the popular kids). What EVER. Jerks. Who cares about that phoney [censored] anyway???

I had really been in love with him. Anyone who thinks you can't truly be in love at the age of 12 can sod off. It took me 2 years to finally get over him and a much longer time before I allowed myself to "fall in love" again ... with anyone. I dated several guys over the next 5-6 years but felt absolutely nothing for them other than that they were interesting companions, cute, or a "good catch".

I had a horrible time with a "love that wasn't going to be" back in 1998, but no way am I even going to begin to get into that one. I don't want to dredge up that memory for anyone.

[Nan]

What is worse in the teenage years, the one that breaks up or the one that you look at from afar, dreaming dreams that never come to fruition? <img src="/ubbtreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Apart from those heart stirrings, the worst I have had was my divorce after 25 years of marriage. 11 years ago - I think that took about 5 years before I really got myself together again. All water under the bridge now, when I consider myself extremely blessed in my marriage.

[Gail]

I had a crush on this guy at school and went into a depression after I graduated. It took about 2 years before I could think of him without becoming sad. I was the only girl in our drafting class and because I got straight As in that class, he would call on me to help him with his work.

At our 20 year reunion, when he saw me, he came right up to me and kissed me on the lips- right in front of my husband! At least he didn't forget me! <img src="/ubbtreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

As far as my first marriage goes, that was a slow death that was spread out over 20 years. That's a pretty long breakup that is hard to think about still.