Doug Posted October 20, 2012 Share Posted October 20, 2012 I will just come out and say it: I have been living a double life for several years. I am addicted to porn. It has gotten really bad, to the point where I am suffering from the physical effects of frequent porn watching. I need to rewire my brain. My libido is shot. I won't go into detail on what I have been doing, but needless to say they are things a man shouldn't do, and even more things a Christian man should be doing. It didn;t get better it kept on getting worse and worse. I need prayer. God is the only one who can get me away from this addiction. I have already made several steps to keep myself away from this evil. I don't let myself be alone, especially with a computer, which is hard since I am not working right now. I have been hanging out with my pastor at church during the week so I can have someone to talk to and I can also study for school. I have been diving into the Word more often now, and I attend Bible study once or twice a week, even if I can barely afford gas. Just keeping myself from being alone is the biggest hurdle because I often get lonely. I have taken steps to keep me from searching for anything a Christian shouldn't be searching for, like a web filter plug in and enabling Google's strictest safe search filter. I know my brain can be rewired. I know it isn't hopeless and it can be done. It is just a matter of how long. I have been researching and have seen estimates from 6 weeks to 6 months. But I have to do it. I plan to get married one day and for the sake of God and my future wife I can't be living a lie for a life. I wish I had never gotten into Porn. I could have ruined my life. Thank God for his forgiveness. If anyone has any suggestions please post it here or PM it to me, please keep it off FB. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators Gail Posted October 20, 2012 Administrators Share Posted October 20, 2012 Doug, you are not alone. This is very, very common. I thank you that you are seeking help from the One who can break every chain and who wants to make you whole. Father, we thank You for Your great love that You have for Your children! I praise You for Jesus, who came to earth as one of us and knows our weaknesses. It is by His shed blood that I lift our dear brother to You in prayer. Please help Doug in his endeavour. The healing might not come all at once but I pray that he will persevere and not become discouraged, but to trust in You always. In Jesus' name- amen. (((( Doug )))) Quote Isaiah 32:17 And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members phkrause Posted October 20, 2012 Members Share Posted October 20, 2012 Well Doug I will be praying for you. I believe there are AA programs that are setup for this, but am not sure. Try finding out, maybe your pastor has some idea's. Anyway keep the faith and God will bless. Quote phkrause By the decree enforcing the institution of the papacy in violation of the law of God, our nation will disconnect herself fully from righteousness. When Protestantism shall stretch her hand across the gulf to grasp the hand of the Roman power, when she shall reach over the abyss to clasp hands with spiritualism, when, under the influence of this threefold union, our country shall repudiate every principle of its Constitution as a Protestant and republican government, and shall make provision for the propagation of papal falsehoods and delusions, then we may know that the time has come for the marvelous working of Satan and that the end is near. {5T 451.1} Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olger Posted October 20, 2012 Share Posted October 20, 2012 God is able Doug, and good on you for confessing. Psalm 34 Quote "Please don't feed the drama queens.." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gordon1 Posted October 20, 2012 Share Posted October 20, 2012 Our thoughts are affected by many factors. The brain is nourished by blood, a product of the food we eat and drink, the air we breathe. Sister White stresses the importance of a simple vegetarian diet, moreso a vegan one with a high raw component. Eggs can be particularly aggravating for hormonal imbalance. Abstention from all animal products is best. Many have little control over their passions - anger, lust, impatience. Food is only one factor, but a strong one. Junk in = junk out. This was a valuable lesson which Adventism helped me to better understand. Hormones affect our temperament and so opting for a high green diet with water will help moderate our thoughts & expressions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woody Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Doug - Sounds like you are making good steps for recovery. Keep up the good work. This is a good start by coming here. Praying for you. Quote May we be one so that the world may be won. Christian from the cradle to the grave I believe in Hematology. Â Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Jeannieb43 Posted October 23, 2012 Moderators Share Posted October 23, 2012 The only way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it by a good habit. There might be some things you could do which would become your new addiction -- to take up your spare time in a useful, enjoyable way. Do you have a camera? Do you enjoy walking? I see lots of gorgeous pictures here on C/A which are the products of some excellent photography by our members. And taking really good pictures takes a lot of time and concentration -- plus walking, out in the fresh air! Quote Jeannie<br /><br /><br />...Change is inevitable; growth is optional.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
456789 Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 here is cool info thank for the latest info. Quote shahid saif Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhonsmith3741 Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Doug i realy feel beter when i saw your that post, you chuse right step now and i realy apreciate you.i also be praying for you, good luck and be happy...!!! Quote !!!..<<..Usman Gee..>>..!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Restin Posted February 9, 2013 Share Posted February 9, 2013 A main feature about addiction is that it fulfills an urgent problem in the deep unsconcious needs. For a few moments, probably the only moments in your life, you feel good instead of bad, while indulging what your addicted to. There's the feeling you're a nobody and a nothing deep inside without the effect of the drug, porn, activity, etc. There can even be terror when it is denied. Something that REALLY helps is to say this to your primal self many times over: "those people, and that sex, I crave can't save me, or make me live forever. Of course you know that, feel stupid saying it, doesn't seem to be related at all. But it's a primal part of you that is generating the sexual urge, the shred of help it gets from porn. Remind yourself many times a day that you are somebody to God, not just a nothing. You are greatly valued, a Prince, a Son in the personal family of the God of the Universe. Make that real to the primal part of you deep inside. Say to yourself, "it is God who can make me live forever, not sex, not the person I want to have sex with." Those can do nothing to save me and make me of value, but God can. Saying those things to yourself many times a day begins to take hold in the unconscious. Addiction comes up out of feeling alone, unheard, unseen, just one brown blade of grass in a whole field of brown grass. Nobody sees or cares about you, but sex just makes it feel better for awhile. The part of you that has the addictive urge is not operating on the same level as you, is grossly mistaken about what it takes to be of value and have eternal life. By bringing it up to date, it can be moderated, even transformed. Ask for the power from the Holy Spirit as you talk to your addiction this way. You try, and the Holy Spirit makes it so. This takes some time but is a permanent transforming cure, not just a bandaid. Of Course, it always helps to have some kind of job, physical work if possible, that gets rid of a large chunk of time, gets your blood and brain untrapped and circulating normally for some hours. May the Lord bless you and help you find the way to victory. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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