Administrators Gail Posted December 17, 2013 Administrators Share Posted December 17, 2013 I have found that if or when I am willing to respect another's freedom to hen's opinion and agree with him/her on those points that I can, then both sides can feel at peace to share Much depends on the presentation. A stark, direct statement quite often invites a stark, direct response. Quote Isaiah 32:17 And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stan Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 REV 184 Put the baseball bat down, step back form the plate, go sit on the bench and think about your attitude. Quote If you receive benefit to being here please help out with expenses. https://www.paypal.me/clubadventist Administrator of a few websites like https://adventistdating.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Narcah Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 You do realize Paul states that a lot of his beliefs on marriage are his own opinion and not inspired right? Look at what Jesus said, not Paul. It's kind of like using Jobs friends to prove theology. Quote -Jason Youtube.com/narcah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackdiamond Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 It seems that the command for a man to not divorce his wife would imply that a man shouldn't be the one to initiate the divorce. I don't see this as the same as agreeing to a divorce after your wife has left and is actively in a relationship with another man. At this point, it seems like the marriage has already ended and it's just legal paperwork that remains. I'm not sure there is a direct parallel between the Biblical examples of marriage and divorce and the current day legal paperwork. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Searcher Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 You do have Biblical grounds for divorce, and the fact that she had a child with another man makes it even more so. So a divorce and re-marriage is available for you. The torah declares that if a woman leaves her first husband and marries another, or in your case lives with another and has a child by him, then she is not to return to her first husband. That would be an abomination in Israel. But then you have the example of Hosea whose wife did exactly as your wife including having a child out of wedlock, and Hosea did not give up on his wife nor did he reject the children of the other men. I would suggest that you work with your pastor and do some earnest praying to know God's will in this matter. But according to Scripture, you are free to divorce and re-marry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Gregory Matthews Posted October 25, 2014 Moderators Share Posted October 25, 2014 Well, the opening post seems to be confused to the point where it cannot easily be understood. However, I will simply make one point: The author of that post seemingly is not aware of the number of Adventist pastors who have left ministry due to divorce and/or remarriage. Quote Gregory Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TruthSeeker123 Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 With regards to the OP, I don't think you really want to divorce your wife and have great sympathy with your situation. It's clear that you want to do the right thing and I commend you for that. But, is forcing your estranged wife to remain married to you, even though she wants out and has established moral grounds for divorce, the right thing to do? From what I gather the only reason why you don't want to divorce her is out of fear of not being morally able to remarry her if she repents in the future. Is it true? If I could advise you my advice would be to let her go. However, if your wife is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I would advise you to write her a letter and pour your heart out to her and not give up on her. It might be that she suffers from a complex (as a result of the abuse) thinking that she doesn't deserve you, your love and your kindness. Patience is needed with survivors of sexual abuse. Most spouses of survivors say that life with them is a living hell until they underwent restoration allowing God to heal their brokenness. My advice can be summarised as: (1) Divorce her because forcing her to remain married to you even though moral grounds for divorce has been established is not right; (2) If she is a survivor of sexual abuse, hang in there, be patient and try to win back her love coz sometimes it can be a living hell (and don't divorce her). Alternatively, you could divorce her and try to woo her all over again. Liz 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest billyjobob Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 I've been separated from my spouse for years and she has found someone else even had a child with someone else. But we are married. I've had two sides of the story the liberal and the conservative. And really I just want the biblical. question am I to be alone? This is why I think the gays should marry. Why shouldn't they be just as miserable as the rest of us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Gregory Matthews Posted November 23, 2014 Moderators Share Posted November 23, 2014 Speak for yourself. Well, I guess that you just did. Gail 1 Quote Gregory Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeHiscost Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Even though people have gone through the pain of divorce, they are welcome here. Thanks Stan. I think Jesus takes special circumstances into consideration when one has a really bad start. Look at how much Solomon bent the rules, although there is no specific word indicating he'll be in the kingdom. God is Love! Jesus saves! Quote Lift Jesus up!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 I agree with Truthseeker, she has a child with another man, divorce her so that she can marry the child's father. Quote For what will a man be profited, if he gains the whole world, and forfeits his soul? Mat. 16:26Please, support the JDRF and help find a cure for Type 1 Diabetes. Please, support the March of Dimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest billyjobob Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Speak for yourself. Well, I guess that you just did. I just pray that you can recognize a tongue in cheek joke. I love me goodwife dearly. I now perceive there is no room for humour on this forum. '-,-' Apologize for that. Beg my pard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Gregory Matthews Posted December 4, 2014 Moderators Share Posted December 4, 2014 Yes, and it seems that you were not able to recognize my tongue in cheek response. Quote Gregory Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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