The norms and cultures in a society are duly reflected in the churches in that society. The wheat and tares grow together, not all members in churches are converted, or so filled with the Holy Spirit they reflect the society of heaven rather than the society of earth. Many are new Christians just beginning that walk and groping and learning to walk with God.
The church is represented By the Israelite's who left Egypt under the leadership of Moses, and there with them was a mixed multitude who who were a continual influence of unbelief, and rebellion, and complaint. There was another 40 years of wandering in the desert after first coming to the Jordan for a period of cleansing of the body of wanderers. It was time for those adults whose sympathies were fully set in unbelief, fear, and distrust in the Power of God, to learn and repent, yet still perish in the desert. They were not willing to credit power of Divine Love to empower them to take the land for God.
So individuals here and there in the church are the few who are the Calebs an Joshuas who are full of faith in the Almighty Merciful and Loving God, who is prepared and offering full salvation to every human being.
But we are as a body still bound by the limitations of our societies fear of those who are "other", and we are naturally uncomfortable around the mentally ill, the addicted, LGBT, impoverished, and desperate. These are the giants in the land today, and indeed we cannot meet these forces in our human devices. The Battle is the Lords. Living in faith, and reliance on God, recognizing that of ourselves we can do nothing.... then we can meet the world be a living demonstration of redeeming Love.
We need to be so infused with the love and wisdom of God, in Jesus that every person we meet will be able to become sensible to their value to God. We may be feeble, and small, but our Savior is Mighty, and He is our strength, and everything we need, to make us everything He wants us to be.... to minister His love to the world.
the failure of the church is the failure to love with divine love.