seven ways to hurt your pastor..

[rudywoofs (Pam)]

from a blog I follow here :

1) Criticize the pastor’s family. Few things are as painful to pastors as criticizing their families, especially if the criticisms are related to issues in the church.

2) Tell the pastor he is overpaid. Very few pastors really make much money. But there are a number of church members who would like to make the pastor feel badly about his pay.

3) Don’t defend the pastor. Critics can be hurtful. But even more hurtful are those who remain silent while their pastor is verbally attacked. Silence is not golden in this case.

4) Tell your pastor what an easy job he has. It can really sting when someone suggests that the pastor really only works about ten hours a week. Some actually believe that pastors have several days a week off.

5) Be a constant naysayer. Pastors can usually handle the occasional critic. But the truly painful relationships are with church members who are constantly negative. How do you know you’ve succeeded in this regard? The pastor runs the other way when he sees you.

6) Make comments about the pastor’s expenditures. I heard it from a pastor this past week. A church member asked, “How can you afford to go to Disney World?” Wow.

7) Compare your pastor’s preaching and ministry unfavorably to that of another pastor. Many times the member wants you to know how much he or she likes that pastor on the podcast compared to you. If you really want to hurt your pastor, you can make certain he knows how inferior he is.

[Johann]

I have met some of these accusations through my half century in the ministry. Fortunately they are not many and far between.

What hurts the most is when a relative of yours makes some of these statements. And talks as if he is an expert and knows all about from a "reliable" source.

[rudywoofs (Pam)]

this sounds more like the devil talking

[Johann]

He may appear closer to us than we think

[Sojourner]

Interestingly one Pastor I had a number of years ago once told me that he and his wife sometimes struggled with the fact that they were not invited to peoples homes in their congregation for meals or simply for fellowship, outside of when people wanted something from them. 

 

Another thing I learned is that many Pastors feel that they cannot speak their mind from behind the pulpit and have to curtail what they say on a regular basis as to not offend people and to step on eggshells around others. I can see why they would do that, yet its a sad thing that it has to be that way!