Matrimonial Excesses

[Haldog]

Donning fire suit and turning the A/C on to high....

Solemn Appeal page 36

MATRIMONIAL EXCESSES.

"Very much of the nervousness and hysteria so common among women, arises from abuses of the sexual function: in single life it is often the result of excitement of the sexual organs, induced by reading `love-sick' novels, and cherishing lascivious thoughts, while in married life it is from the overtaxation of the nervous system by marital excesses.

"I know the heart-history of many noble, high-toned women, whose whole being revolts at the use to which they are put! Yet their ideas of domestic peace are so exalted that, loyal and true, they submit themselves a constant sacrifice, and, by the mere force of will, keep alive the fire of love within their tortured souls; living martyrs are they, daily enduring a fiercer ordeal than any to which the Christian martyrs were subjected. (Greater than Peter being hung upside down? John dipped in boiling oil? Isaiah cut in half? Worse than Jesus? Dang, James must have been awful in bed!) Many of these husbands are all the wife could ask, except in this one thing, (a perfect man except that he expects sex from his wife) and never dream but that they love those whom they have promised to `honor and cherish;' but it is a love so full of selfishness that it ceases to be true."

"Our graveyards, could they speak, would send forth a sad and sickening wail from the young wives and mothers who have been placed there, the victims of matrimonial abuse of the sexual function.(sex kills!) Our Greenwoods, our Auburns, and our Laurel Hills, are dotted with graves of young and middle-aged women, whose lives have been offered up as a sacrifice to the lustful passions of their husbands. (Horrors!) And not always are these husbands ignorant of the result they are hastening; yet they will not pause in their guilty work, but deliberately and often furiously commit the murder for which, were justice meted out to them, they would `hang by the neck till they were dead,' instead of being permitted to live and woo a second, a third, and sometimes even a fourth, victim to their base desires." (Silly women, don't they know that men have desires?)

"The human race are wondering and mourning over the `mysterious dispensations of Providence' in permitting so much disease, and removing from earth so many of the middle-aged and the young; and we are exhorted to consider this a lesson God is teaching to prepare for death. The facts are these: people destroy their own lives, and the lives of their children, by their own sexual abuses, and God suffers them to die, because they have so often and so grossly violated the laws he has ordained, that they are not fit to live!" (Jesus died for me while I was yet a sinner)

"The foundation of this whole scheme of abuse of the sexual function is laid in the marriage-bed. Children who early fall into the habit of self-abuse, and young men and women who become libertines and prostitutes, are often not so much to blame as are the parents who, by their excesses in married life, entailed upon them a depraved organization."

Here is what God says about the marriage bed

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled.

Proverbs 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

Proverbs 5:19 [Let her be as] the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

1Co 7:3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.

1Co 7:4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

1Co 7:5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Paul (Holy Spirit) encourages sexual union so that Satan won't tempt us. So who would teach that married sex is harmful?

Hmmm Who would want to say what God has made holy is actually evil? "SAAAATAAN"?

[Gail]

My first thought was, it might help if the wife knew that she was allowed to LIKE sex.

I wonder what sexual abuse in terms of a wife could be, although I'm sure there are cases.

[Gail]

If he didn't take a bath often enough, that would turn me off, too!

[Guest]

[olger]

Hey, who wrote this and what was the date?

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[Gregory Matthews]

The book A SOMOMN APPEAL was written by more than one author. EGW was one and James White was another. If my memory serves me accurately there were brief parts from other works by other authors. From the standpoint, it cannot be said that EGW is the author of everything in the book. She was not. It is not always identified as to who it was that wrote a specific section of the book.

Here is what the EGW Estate has in commenting on a specific question about the book:

25. Ellen White reflected popular, erroneous views on health (masturbation, wigs, dress reform, no evening meal).

Answer: The video mixes Ellen White's writings with the writings of others. Five of the six statements presented as representing Ellen White's views on masturbation were not written by her but by physicians quoted by James White in A Solemn Appeal, pp. 12, 91, 96, 257, 271. For comments on each of these issues, see references below.

Resources:

Herbert E. Douglass, Messenger of the Lord, 1998, pp. 493-495 [masturbation, wigs];

Francis D. Nichol, Ellen G. White and Her Critics, 1951, pp. 136-160; SDA Encyclopedia, 1996 ed., vol. 10, "Dress," pp. 475-476;

Arthur L. White, The Progressive Years, pp. 177-184 [dress reform];

Ellen G. White, Counsels on Diet and Foods, p. 173-178;

Arthur L. White, The Progressive Years, Appendix C [2 meals a day].

For a recent analysis of Ellen White's health message, see Douglass, Messenger, pp. 278-342; the real reasons for the health message are summarized on pp. 292-296; the results of the health message as seen in the lives of Adventists after more than a century are summarized on pages 320-342.

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