Home and honoring your father and mother

[Jonnothin]

Okay, I've got this issue.

I've just graduated from High school and am recovering from a disease (It's a long story and I'll probably tell it some other time). Anyway I was forced to finish school from home and what I discovered is that I can't get anything done at home. I've got a little sister there, the house is a mess and I don't have a space to myself. So in order to finish school, I moved what stuff I have to my grandparents house (they offered before so I didn't ask).

Anyway, to make a long story short, before I get back from graduation I start to think about my family and how they really could use some help with the house, but as soon as I get home I fall into the same old laziness. Now I'm at my grandparents again and I've been trying figure out if I can actually do anything about their situation.

So is it wrong not to help? Is it like not honoring your father in mother?

Notes: My immediate family is adventist, but my grandparents are not although they go to our church. I am adventist also, but I've been struggling with a lot of things lately so probably expect many more posts like this.

[phkrause]

Very interesting situation your in. But if living with your parents puts you in a bad state, than I'd not go back there to stay either. Maybe you should pray about the situation. And also maybe just visiting and telling them how you feel would help. Also you could get your gp to help you help them clean up there house on each visit!

[Jonnothin]

It's more complicated than that. My grandparents actually have tried to help clean up, but there is just SO MUCH TO DO. It just doesn't end, by the time you're finished with one project and start working on another the one you finished is going back to the way it was. I know that parents know that I have issues with it, but telling them is like telling a lung doctor (forgive me for the lack of the correct term) who smokes that smoking is bad for them. In fact, me and my brother talk to each other quite often about how my dad comes home and it goes one of 3 ways that I can think of: He complains and does nothing, or does something for a little bit while he complains or he tries to ignore it. I don't mean to paint my dad or my mom in a bad light at all. I mean they've put me through academy and helped me out while I was sick, but when it comes to home they seem to know as much as I do. It's a mess and we gotta fix it.

I have friend who has the same issue, but she is not adventist and plans on moving out with her sister next summer.

It seems like I'm in a situation where I either "jump in the water and drowned with them" or "stay in the boat."

This definitely could use some more prayer.

[Gail]

The good news is that you are almost an adult and you will be able to make your own decisions.

I wonder if your grandparents would be able to put you up for a few more years while you go to college. Would that be an option?

[Jonnothin]

Actually that's a whole other issue. I'd like to go to Andrews, but there's no where that the money can come from. My grandparents could help with my academy bill, but in order for me to go to an Adventist college I would need nothing short of a miracle. I could go to a community college, but I'm not sure what I'm going to study so I was planning on taking the year off to raise money for college. I know I like music and computers. I guess part of my reasoning for going to Andrews was to get some friends that I could get closer with and get an Adventist education.

I do know that I don't want to take out loans.