How "Daddy" affects your job

[lazarus]

In "The Father Factor," Stephan Poulter lists five styles of fathers -- super-achieving, time bomb, passive, absent and compassionate/mentor -- who have powerful influences on the careers of their sons and daughters.

Children of the "time-bomb" father, for example, who explodes in anger at his family, learn how to read people and their moods. Those intuitive abilities make them good at such jobs as personnel managers or negotiators, he writes.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20060512/us_nm/life_work_dc_1

This is interesting. I might get the book when it comes out.

What y'all think?

[Bravus]

My dad was a compassionate mentor, I'd guess, and I've tended to follow in his footsteps. He was a factory worker throughout his working life (he's retired now but drives a school bus and ministers to the kids) while I'm a professor, so our careers paths were different, but his legacy made me realise that it's the integrity of the person in the job, not the job itself, that's important. I am incredibly blessed to have the Dad I have, and one of the reasons for moving back to Australia is to let my kids get to know their Grandpa.

[Dr. Shane]

It is the man that brings honor to the job not the job that brings honor to the man.

[cricket]

I am constantly amazed at the popularity of books such as these: a revelation of something that is generally already understood.

Fathers affect every facet of our lives--isn't that a "given"?

[Nan]

Maybe this is a manifestation of we got told was the "Peter Principle" in Social Psychology - you feel better about something if you can give it a name, even if your understanding is no deeper. <img src="/adventist/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

[lazarus]

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I am constantly amazed at the popularity of books such as these: a revelation of something that is generally already understood.

Fathers affect every facet of our lives--isn't that a "given"?

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In my experience as a pastor it is surprising how little people think the actions and personality of their parents and siblings have on their behaviour or situation. I've have especially found this in pre-marital conselling situations.

Yes I think the key thing is to be able to name it. Perhaps when you name it you can begin to manage it rather than it manage you.

[Dr. Shane]

Since I have been involved in 12-step groups since I have been 15, I really don't know what the average person knows and what he or she doesn't. My experience is that self-knowledge is only worth so much and it isn't normally enough. One needs to experience the Spirit in their daily life in order to live a well balanced life as an adult.

[cricket]

Nan, Lazarus, of course you're both right. Even so, it still amazes me.