Mid-Life Crisis

[Dr. Shane]

Well I turn 40 in July. From the way it looks I will be in Africa at the time - far from my family.

So, I figure it is about time for my mid-life crisis.

I am thinking about getting more involved in AA again so I can help more people.

My other option is to get hair implants so I can have a full head of hair.

I have pretty much ruled out buying the sports car.

[phkrause]

I don't know, I've always thought and believed that the mid-life crisis, is a fairy tale. Not that I haven't seen people go through what they think is a mid-life crisis. But I believe if you have a good wife and you are enjoying life and are right with you Savior there is no reason for it. I think that as life goes on we all ask ourselves, have I done all that I can? Like you mentioned about helping out with AA, seems that you are more interesting in helping others than really making that change in your life that people would consider a mid-life crisis. I say good for you. Doing something productive is good. I think that if you think that that is your mid-life crisis than good for you. As far as the hair, that's just plain vain Shane. hahaha

pk

[Key Guy]

Grimmy,

That is what I found, too! The changes I have in my life at 30,40,50 were changes that I initiated, if there even were any. There was no outside force with which to be dealt.

[Gail]

Yup- been there, done that, bought the T-shirt!

At 20, I had my family. At 30, went to Europe to see some friends. At 40, separated and divorced.

This year I will be 50...

[Key Guy]

I went nuts and shaved my beard on my 30th. I stopped shaving a few days later. What was I thinking?!

40 and 50 were way quiet.

[Bravus]

I got my motorbike at 42, but that had more to do with moving from Alberta to Queensland, where it's sunny all year 'round instead of snowy half the year.

I think midlife crisis is much more likely for that person who got a job and got married straight out of high school or college and is still in that same town, working for that same company, 20 years later. There's gotta be some pressure to make a change while there's still life left.

With all the moves and upheavals we've intentionally inflicted on ourselves, I'm far from bored: not quite 3 years yet in this job and this town. Sounds like you've gone through your share of changes too, Shane, and with the Africa project coming up as well boredom and being stuck in a rut doesn't seem as though it'd be such an issue.

[Robert]

My other option is to get hair implants so I can have a full head of hair.

[Gail]

LOL Rob, I'm at the point where I'm beginning to think about giving my Miata to my girlie and moving on, too, although I hate to admit it... I still love that car!!

So, yeah, I did the sports car thing, too. :)

[phkrause]

Never liked the Miata, sorry! But I did own a 69 camaro and a 93 vette. My camaro was my favorite of all time, and neither had anything to do with mid-life. Never believed in mid-life anyway.

pk

[Gail]

Good year for a Camaro!!!

[phkrause]

Absolutely, as a matter of fact, the best.

pk

[Key Guy]

MOPAR... I had a '69 Road Runner with the 440 / 6-pack carb. Scary car.

[Stan]

MOPAR... I had a '69 Road Runner with the 440 / 6-pack carb. Scary car.

I feel your pain as it was not the 426 Hemi :)

[Key Guy]

4 miles per gallon around town... at 45 cents a gallon. OUCH!!

[Stan]

Kawaski 750 triple 2 cycle, makes the mopar look slowwwwwwww

[Gail]

LOL I remember the Road Runners, too.

[Key Guy]

Now the killer question....

Do you remember the Nash Metropolitan?

[Key Guy]

(mine was a convertible)

[Dr. Shane]

I think I would rather buy a boat than a car. A boat will allow me to invite people to go fishing with me so I can network more, make more friends and develop deeper relationships. But that is just me.

[phkrause]

Yes I remember those beauties, hahahaha. Also the road runners, and how about the super charger's.

pk

[Gail]

Chrysler did have some good playthings, my favourite being the Barracuda

Remember the Super Bee?

All good mid-life crisis cars...

[Gail]

Very often in a mid-life crisis an older fellow will take up with a sweet young thing. It seems to be a real temptation at "that" age, 50 of what-have-you.

Know anybody who did that?

[Key Guy]

Gail,

I have thought about this a lot. Tell me if I'm wrong..

The guys that have the crises are typically married

I'm not so sure any of them are happily married

I'm offering no excuses here... but... I can easily conclude that there is a role played by the wife who perhaps isn't what she was when they first married.

Why do I say that?

The guy typically finds a 'young', energetic honey

The wife typically doesn't look for a 'young' stud

If the husband were digging an older, mature lady, I'd be all wet, but that's not what happens.

Short summary: The wife can no longer keep up with the husband. She may even expect that he should just accept her for what she has become. Sadly, she may be all spent on raising kids and such, so I'm not blaming her. I do totally believe that communications in that marriage has hit the rocks.

I know I'm now open for the arrows... start shooting!

[Gail]

ROFLOL

I'm not sure that it is totally a wife's issue...

I rather thought that perhaps the man is struggling with his virility or something. After all, a woman is in her prime sexually at 40. That's why I would wonder if the following scenarios would be at play here:

- wife on arm no longer young and attractive

- he wants to see if he still has what it takes to attract a young and attractive wife

- the marriage is just not going well and a milestone birthday gives the impetus to do something drastic

- boredom

- a physical thing- the wife's sex drive has waned and he's just fed up of going without and lonely

- simply aging... time is getting on and if he doesn't do it now he'll never get the chance

I just love watching elderly couples who are in love. Old age romance rocks!!

[phkrause]

I did mean the Super Bee when I said super charger. when I bought my camaro I first went and checked out the barracuda. I chose the camaro.

pk