Child Rearing

[Outta Here]

Child-rearing without corporal punishment can work. That's all the further I'm going to say on this topic.

[Gerr]

What I'm saying is - I would not rule it out.

[carolaa]

Carolaa - -

Can you talk a little more about the "attachment" style of parenting? This is basically being in tune with your child. If you want to know more about it, do a little research on Dr. William & Martha Sears. They've written many books on the subject.

I'm trying to raise a child with attachment issues.

We have tried Nancy Thomas and I have read "Parenting With Love & Logic." Behaviors are changing, but not always for the better as he gets older. Also, the parents in my house are not in agreement on discipline. It's too bad when the parents don't agree on discipline. It makes for a very, very difficult situation.

One says that natural consequences will help to teach for a longer period, but take longer to teach. One says that an immediate response is needed and sees an imediate change in behavior. Well, they are both right. And there are time when one or the other is better. Most of the time, though, it is better to go with natural consequences, especially as kids get older, because that is what makes them *think* and own their behavior rather than just mindless obedience.

[carolaa]

Originally Posted By: carolaa

First of all' date=' you need to make sure they are getting enough quality time with their parents. That's a big reason why kids misbehave, to get their parents' attention.[/quote']

My daughter-in-law is a stay-home Mom. She is with our grand-daughter almost every waking moment of her life. I admire them for resisting the lure of a 2-income luxury. She is very patient. She plays with her, reads to her, etc. They use "time-outs" and sends her to her room, toys taken away, for negative consequences. I don't think the child has ADHD or autism.

It sounds like maybe there is no problem, then, or at least nothing too serious. Have the parents expressed frustration or indicated they don't know what to do? If not, I guess I would leave it alone.