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19 Nisan

The Stolen Bread Machine

Last Passover, someone broke into our garage, where we had stored all the chametz we had sold. They stole our bread-making machine. When people asked why we weren't claiming it on the insurance, we pointed out that since the bread machine could not be thoroughly cleaned of chametz, it had to be sold for Passover. Therefore, it wasn't ours at the time of the theft – and we could not claim. (This year we made sure our garage is more secure!)

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Thank you for sharing the story.

Actually, the text of the sale frequently states that the non-Jew is buying only the CHAMETZ contained in our pots, pans (and bread-making machines) – not the actual vessel itself. This avoids the necessity of having to re-dunk the vessels in a mikveh upon buying them back (see Numbers 31:23, and Talmud – Avodah Zara 75b).

So it may be that you actually did own the bread machine at the time of the theft! Check it out with your local rabbi (and insurance company).

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20 Nisan

Cool Whip on Matzah?

What are we allowed to eat on Passover? I consider myself Conservative-to-Reform, but growing up I was told things like you cannot eat peanuts. Can you eat Cool Whip?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

The Torah instructs a Jew not to eat (or even possess) chametz during all seven days of Passover (Exodus 13:3). "Chametz" is defined as any of the five grains - wheat, spelt, barley, oats and rye - which has come into contact with water for more than 18 minutes. This is a serious Torah prohibition, and for that reason we take extra protective measures on Passover to prevent any mistakes.

As a further precaution, we do not use Passover food in the category of "kitniyot." Sometimes referred to generically as "legumes," this includes rice, corn, soy beans, string beans, peas, lentils, peanuts, mustard, sesame seeds and poppy seeds. Even though kitniyot cannot technically become chametz, Ashkenazi Jews do not eat them on Passover.

As for Cool Whip and other things, it all depends on the ingredients. It's always best to look for a kosher certification symbol on the package, indicating that it is kosher for Passover. Don't worry - there's plenty of delicious food to eat on Passover. For ideas, check out our gourmet Passover recipes at http://www.aish.com/h/pes/r/.

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21 Nisan

Brothers' Reunion

I'm within a few weeks of turning 49. Having been raised in a non-observant Jewish environment, I only began my Jewish education a year ago and am planning to have my bar mitzvah 37 years late. What is the applicable Torah portion for my celebration?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Mazal Tov! Planning your celebration on the week of the Torah portion you were born in, and the week that you became Bar Mitzvah in 37 years ago is extremely powerful, since your Torah portion, Vayigash, is all about reunions.

Parshat Vayigash is the climax of the story of Joseph, whose brothers sold him into slavery while he was still young. For 22 years they remained separated. During that time, the brothers felt great remorse for their actions. A famine also spread causing life to become even more bitter.

Ironically in Egypt, Joseph went from being a slave to the Egyptian prime minister. Since Joseph was a prophet, he was able to discern that a famine was coming; he therefore stored food away in Egypt to eat during the years of famine. Soon, the brothers were forced to come to Egypt to look for food. The Egyptian they solicited was none other than Joseph!

Parshat Vayigash is the story of how these brothers reunite. The brothers didn't recognize Joseph when they asked him for food, because he looked and spoke like an Egyptian. Joseph also didn't reveal his identity right away, fearing that his brothers had not changed since they had sold him into slavery.

However, when Joseph saw that the brothers had regretted selling him into slavery, "Joseph could not restrain himself... He cried so loud that all of Egypt and Pharaoh's household heard. Joseph said to his brothers, 'I am Joseph! Is my father still alive?' But his brothers could not answer him because they were disconcerted before him." (Genesis 45:1-3)

The great rabbi, the Chofetz Chaim explained that when Joseph said, "I am Joseph," God's master plan became clear to the brothers. They had no more questions. Everything that had happened for the last 22 years fell into perspective. So too, in a future time God will reveal Himself and announce, "I am the Almighty!" The veil will be lifted from our eyes and we will comprehend everything that transpired throughout history.

So you see, this Torah portion is not only a reunion between brothers, but also a reunion between each brother and God, as they recognized the truth of all that occurred while they were separated.

So too, with you. Your celebration will be a reunion to affirm your relationship with God and the Jewish people.

To learn more, read "The Stone Chumash," (artscroll.com).

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22 Nisan

Downfall of the Enemy

I married a negative person who has a very negative attitude. All these years whenever his meanness or negativity was pointed in my direction, I would scream and cry and pray to God to help me. Never in all my years did I think to ask God to help my husband become a nice, kind, loving person. I am doing that now.

This made me think about how I would pray for the Jews is Israel. Will it help to pray for the Arabs to love them?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

You've arrived at a deep spiritual truth.

The Talmud (Brachot 10a) tells about some neighborhood bandits who were constantly harassing Rabbi Meir. One day Rabbi Meir prayed that they should die.

His wife Bruria said, "Is such a prayer permitted? The verse in Psalms 104:35 says that 'SINS will cease from the earth' – not that 'SINNERS will cease from the earth.' So rather than pray for their demise, you should pray for them to repent."

Rabbi Meir listened to his wife and prayed that the bandits return to the righteous path. Soon after the bandits reformed their ways.

Every human being is created in the image of God and we should pray for their return to sanity.

The story is told of a woman sitting at home with her pet cat, when a mouse suddenly runs loose through the house. The woman and the cat share a common goal: They both want the mouse removed. The difference is that the woman simply wants the mouse to stop bothering her, but the cat wants it dead.

Jews in Israel don't want to kill Arabs, God forbid. We just want to be left alone to live in peace.

If they do not choose the path of peace, and they suffer because of it, we are still instructed not to rejoice at the downfall of an enemy (Proverbs 24:17).

Jews have always shown tremendous respect, even for their enemies. The Midrash explains that during the last six days of Passover, we do not say the complete Hallel prayer of joyful praises, because when the Jews crossed the Red Sea, God said, "Since my creations [the Egyptians] are drowning, you should not be singing praises."

Ezekiel 39:13 describes how the Jewish people were credited with a tremendous sanctification of God's Name, by treating enemy corpses with great respect. In modern times, I recall an incident a few years ago when Palestinian terrorist Abu Jihad was assassinated, and the Palestinians were certain the Israelis did it. How did they know? Because Abu Jihad's wife and children were left unharmed.

We would much prefer to live at peace with the Arabs. And we pray for them to pursue the path of peace.

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23 Nisan

Why Bad Things Happen

If God is omnipotent and merciful as the Bible claims, why do bad things happen to good people?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Dr. Gerald Schroeder, double-Ph.D. in Nuclear Physics and Earth and Planetary Sciences from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, explains:

It is true, notwithstanding the bad we occasionally see around us, that the God of the Bible is described as merciful and long-suffering, filled with righteousness and truth (Exodus 34:6). Equally confounding, at the end of the Six Days of Creation, we are told that God saw all that was done and "behold it was very good" (Genesis 1:31). Not just good, but very good.

Still, young children get multiple sclerosis and earthquakes cause buildings to topple and crush the innocent. The same God that streaks the sky with a rainbow of red at sunrise and produces the beauty of a flower must also be connected to these horrors.

Although we may see it as unfortunate, bad things happening to good people is consistent with the biblical description of God's role in the world. By chapter four, Cain has murdered Abel. According to the Bible, Abel was the good guy. God had accepted his special offering while rejecting Cain's run-of-the-mill sacrifice. God had the power to prevent Abel's murder but chose not to.

Isaiah hints at why: "I am the Eternal, there is no other. I make light and create darkness. I make peace and create evil" (Isaiah 45:6, 7). God, the infinite source of light, creates darkness by withdrawing some of the light. Similarly God, the infinite source of peace, creates evil by shielding a portion of the peace. The biblical definition of creation is the partial withdrawal of God's presence. God pulls back, and in so doing creates the universe with its laws of nature. For the most part, nature takes its natural course.

Only when events get way off course does the Bible recount that God steps in and overrides nature. A natural-looking world is an essential part of the biblical game plan of life, namely the exercising of our free will. "I call to you witness today the heavens and the earth, I have placed life and death before you, the blessing and the curse. Therefore choose life so that you may live, you and your progeny" (Deut. 30:19).

If humans are to have the will to choose freely, the world must look natural. A natural world has radiation which produces crippling mutations and earthquakes which crush the innocent.

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24 Nisan

Missed Day of the Omer

I spaced out and missed counting one day of the Omer. Am I allowed to continue counting?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

That depends. If you neglected to count the Omer in the evening, and did remember to count the following day, then the next evening you should continue the count as usual, with a blessing.

However, if you neglected to count the Omer for an entire day (i.e. missed both the evening and the following day), then you are still required to count until the end of 49 days - but WITHOUT a blessing.

The reason why one is not permitted to say the blessing is because the Torah writes "You shall count... seven COMPLETE weeks" (Leviticus 23:15). Therefore, if a person missed counting one entire day, it can no longer be considered complete.

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25 Nisan

Shabbos Goy

My husband and I are Christians and our neighbors are Orthodox Jewish. Sometimes on any given Saturday, our neighbors knock on our door and ask us to turn on the air conditioning, etc. We've always helped them out, not understanding the full reasoning behind this tradition.

We have a good relationship with them but we are curious as to how they must view us. Why is it okay for them to ask us to "work" during their Sabbath? Do they then consider us inferior because we are doing these neighborly favors?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

You are describing a phenomenon which is colloquially called a “Shabbos Goy.”

In essence, your neighbors should not be asking you to do things for them, which they themselves are not allowed to do on Shabbat. This is a Talmudic principle, as derived from the Torah which states that on Shabbat, "creative activity should not BE DONE for you" - i.e. even if you are only asking someone else to do it.

The only exceptions are: when there is a commandment to be fulfilled, great monetary loss, or a health-related situation. Air conditioning is considered health-related, because if things get too hot, people (especially the elderly, etc.) could faint or be exposed to other dangers.

Even in the above-mentioned cases, a Jew is only allowed to ask a non-Jew to do a rabbinic-level action. (Mishnah Berurah 307:19-24)

They certainly do not consider you inferior. Rather it is simple pragmatics: they are obligated in observing Shabbat laws that you are not. You can consider it a great kindness to be helping them out, just as any good neighbor would.

In recent times, Colin Powell, Mario Cuomo, Martin Scorsese, and an adolescent Elvis Presley assisted their Jewish neighbors in this way.

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26 Nisan

Bedtime Shema

I know that a Jew is to say the Shema prayer twice a day - in the morning and in the evening. But I recently saw mentioned that it is said a third time, at bedtime. What's this all about?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

"Kriat Shema al hamita" is the bedtime prayer we say, which includes the first paragraph of the Shema, as well as the blessing "HaMapil."

The Talmud says that when one goes to sleep at night, his soul goes up to heaven for a daily accounting. That leaves the body "unprotected," so to speak, so we say the Shema and the blessing Hamapil to counteract that.

Another purpose of the bedtime Shema is so that one should fall asleep while saying words of Torah.

Here is the text of "HaMapil":

"Blessed are You, Lord, our God, King of the universe, Who casts the bonds of sleep upon my eyes and slumber upon my eyelids. May it be Your will, Lord, my God and the God of my forefathers, that You lay me down to sleep in peace and raise me erect in peace. May my ideas, bad dreams, and bad notions not confound me; may my offspring be perfect before You, and may You illuminate my eyes lest I die in sleep, for it is You Who illuminates the pupil of the eye. Blessed are You, God, Who illuminates the entire world with His glory."

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27 Nisan

Kosher Sushi?

I attend a lot of business functions where they serve sushi and caviar. I try to eat only kosher food. What is the story on this?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

The Torah (Leviticus 11:9) teaches that a kosher fish must possess both fins and scales. (Fins help the fish swim, and scales cover the body.) Even if the fish has only one scale or one fin, it is permitted. Tuna, for example, has very few scales, yet is kosher. Other popular kosher fish are bass, carp, cod, flounder, halibut, herring, mackerel, trout and salmon.

Crustaceans (e.g. lobster and crab) and other shellfish (e.g. clams) are not kosher, because they lack scales. Further, all mammals (e.g. whales and dolphins) are not kosher.

There are kosher varieties of sushi – providing the sushi itself has proper rabbinic supervision. This is necessary because mislabeling is a major issue in the fish business, and you would need to see the whole fish with scales to rely on it.

There are other potential kashrut problems as well: "Unsupervised" seaweed may contain sea creatures and bugs. The sauces, oils and even rice could have any number of issues. The fish and vegetables must be prepared with only kosher utensils (e.g. knife, cutting board, etc.). Especially in today's world of highly processed foods, unsupervised sushi should not be relied upon.

As for caviar, the term typically refers to sturgeon roe, which is not kosher. If you are looking for alternatives to sturgeon roe to serve at a fancy dinner, there are kosher-supervised varieties available.

Even if you feel you are not yet ready to commit to kashrut fully, it is still meritorious to minimize the likelihood, frequency and severity of transgression.

So I should point out that if you consciously avoid the varieties that are certainly forbidden – such as sturgeon caviar, eel and shellfish – and limit yourself to things like tuna and salmon, you are avoiding certain multiple prohibitions, but may still be incurring others.

This is acceptable as a short-term solution, because Judaism is not all-or-nothing. Rather it is a process, a journey, where every step counts.

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28 Nisan

The Holocaust: Why?

The pain and tragedy of the Holocaust is so enormous and unfathomable. Why did it happen?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

The bottom line is that we do not know why tragedy happens. In Exodus 33:13, Moses asks God, "Make Your ways known to me." The commentators explain that there are "50 Gates of Wisdom," and Moses had reached the 49th Gate. This means that only one aspect of existence was still unknown to him. And which was that? The issue of "why bad things happen to good people." So what was God's answer? "This is the one thing that no human can ever comprehend." (see Exodus 33:20)

However, Judaism provides us with some approaches and insights. Try reading:

• "Understanding the Holocaust"

• "Wrestling with Suffering"

Also, "Why the Jews" is an excellent online seminar examining the deeper roots of anti-Semitism.

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29 Nisan

Holocaust Denial

It seems that every time I search for the Holocaust online, there are as many articles denying the Holocaust as there are sites reporting on it. What's behind this Holocaust denial? And what can we do to stop it?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Some feel that too much sympathy has been generated for the Jewish people through the Holocaust, and being that these people do not like Jews, they would like the Holocaust to disappear from the pages of history.

Others feel guilty that so many Jews were killed, and hardly anyone did anything to prevent it from happening. In order to alleviate their guilt, they'd rather pretend the whole thing never happened.

There are a few “deniers” who make a lot of noise, and current Holocaust studies are prolific enough to cancel out much of the effect of the deniers. The problem is that even if these “denials” don’t stick, a seed is planted every time someone reads about it. Just by raising these ideas in public discourse, it shifts these ideas from an extremist view to the realm of acceptable opinion.

I think the key to neutralizing these people is to be unfailingly accurate in our reporting of the Holocaust. For example, at one point Aish.com had posted an article entitled "Apple Over the Fence," which told the story of a boy in a concentration camp who was saved from starvation by a young girl who would thrown him an apple every day over the fence. Twenty years later and half a world away, these two people were set up on a blind date, then realized who each other was and got married. The man became famous, telling his amazing story on “Oprah” and signing a motion picture deal.

It turns out, however, that Holocaust researchers identified how various details of the story were inconsistent with the layout and activities at the concentration camp where the man said it all took place. The story was discredited, and Aish.com removed it from our website.

It is stories like this that are used by Holocaust deniers to try to discredit the mountains of absolutely true evidence. Thus the best weapon we can use against the deniers is to maintain total accuracy from our own side.

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30 Nisan

Exercise on Shabbat

How would you explain why my rabbi says not to exercise on Shabbat, although I find it fun and relaxing?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

What is "fun and relaxing" is usually permitted on Shabbat, but not always. (Driving to the beach is not permitted.)

Actually, if a person is exercising for enjoyment, it is permitted to exercise on Shabbat. This is because there is a special mitzvah called "Oneg Shabbat" -- which means a person should do what is enjoyable on Shabbat.

One should he careful, however, not to get sweaty and overexerted, because that goes against the spirit of rest and serenity that Shabbat is designed to provide. (Code of Jewish Law - O.C. 301:2, with Mishnah Berurah 7; "Shmirat Shabbat" 1:16:39)

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1 Iyar

Teshuva Movement

Why are so many Jews today turning their backs on Orthodox Judaism?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

You are making an assertion that I don't believe is born out by the statistics.

Far more Jews are dropping out of other affiliations (fueled by 60 percent intermarriage), while the net gain to Orthodoxy (based on higher birth rates, and "returnees" to Orthodoxy) far exceeds any loss.

It is true that some kids who are raised Orthodox decide to drop out. This is a real minority, and there are many reasons for this, as explored in the book, "Off the Derech" (http://www.amazon.com/dp/1932687432).

However, the far greater trend is for a return to Orthodoxy. The preponderance of outreach kollels and baal teshuva yeshivas has exploded in the past two decades. As an example, in 1975 there were 480 Chabad institutions worldwide; today there are approximately 3,000. You can read a report on this at: http://www.simpletoremember.com/vitals/world-jewish-population.htm

Consider the following excerpt from New Yorker Magazine:

"The people making this sweeping change in their life grew up in a secular world. They went to good colleges and got excellent jobs. They didn't become Orthodox because they were afraid, or because they needed a militaristic set of commands for living their lives. They chose Orthodoxy because it satisfied their need for intellectual stimulation and emotional security.

"The number of Orthodox Jews is increasing in pockets all over the country. There are more than 1,800 Orthodox synagogues in North America, and about half a million Orthodox Jews in the United States - double the number fifteen years ago.

"Modern Orthodox Jews are lawyers, doctors, bankers, advertising executives, professors, computer experts, artists, writers, and teachers. They are also clerks and secretaries. Many of them are "baalei teshuva," people who grew up with little religious training."

This Jewish return was also predicted prophetically, some 3000 years ago:

"Behold, days are coming, says the Lord God, when I will send a famine upon the land. Not a famine for bread nor a thirst for water, but for hearing the word of God. And they shall wander from sea to sea and from the north to the east to seek the word of the Lord..." (Amos 8:11-13)

So the ball is rolling and as the prophet indicates, there is plenty more to come.

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2 Iyar

Tallit - Women

On the issue of women wearing a tallit, I understand that women don't generally wear them because they are not required to attend synagogue services 3 times a day. But is there a law forbidding this?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

A tallit is an embellished form of the mitzvah of tzitzit, which are special tassels placed on a four-cornered garment as prescribed by the Torah.

The primary intention of this commandment was to address a particular failing principally found in men - the inclination toward licentious behavior. Physiologists attribute this to many reasons, yet it's obvious to anyone who reads the news that this is the case.

It was to curb this natural drive that God commanded men to wear tzitzit. As the verses tell us, "And you should see them [the tzitzit] and remember not to follow after one's heart and one's eyes" (Numbers 15:39).

Being that this mitzvah was tailored for man's negative inclination, women have traditionally not worn a tallit.

Nevertheless, from a strictly technical standpoint, women may fulfill the mitzvah of tzitzit. Ashkenazi women may even recite the blessing.

However, this is discouraged for a few reasons:

Firstly, the Torah forbids women to wear garments that are made specifically for a man, as it is written, "A man's garment shall not be worn by a woman." (Deut. 22:5) The Talmudic Sage, Yonatan Ben Uziel, explains the verse as actually referring to tefillin and tzitzit. Therefore if a woman wore Tefillin and Tzitzit which are men's garments, she would be breaking a Torah commandment.

The great Kabbalist the Arizal wrote that the mitzvah of tzitzit is only and specifically for men. (see Kaf HaChaim 17:5)

Additionally, Rabbi Moshe Feinstein states that in many instances where women do wear Tzitzit, it is political statement of women's rights, as opposed to the desire to fulfill G-d's commands. Since the motivation is fundamentally a complaint against the Sages, and not a truthful desire to serve G-d, these actions do not constitute a mitzvah.

To learn more, read:

• “Halichos Bas Yisrael” by Rabbi Yitzchak Yaacov Fuchs

• "Tzitzith" by Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan

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3 Iyar

Requirement to Visit Israel?

I know about the importance of Israel and its centrality to our national narrative. But does the Torah require a Jew to visit Israel at least once?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

I will answer your question regarding a "visit" to Israel. As for the issue of "living" in Israel, please see here for a discussion of the verse, "You shall possess the Land and dwell in it" (Numbers 33:53).

The Talmud states that "every 4 amot (about 7 feet) that a person walks in Israel is another mitzvah." And while there is no formal requirement for a Jew to visit Israel, it is one of the most important things a Jew can do.

In the 18th century, the chassidic Rabbi Nachman from Breslov withstood life-threatening dangers to visit Israel. He said, "To approach the Holy Land, one must overcome many barriers." He was right. Along the way, while crossing through Turkey, he was suspected of being a spy and threatened with imprisonment. While in Turkey, he became deathly ill, and then a bloody war erupted. When he finally left Turkey by ship, a great storm broke out and threatened to capsize them. Eventually he arrived in Israel.

Why did this rabbi, along with many others, risk his life to visit Israel? Said Rabbi Nachman: "The motive for making the journey is to draw closer to God. Merely by stepping foot on the Land he will merge with it and be transformed by its sacred character."

In many ways a trip to Israel is an essential aspect of one's Jewish identity. Jews in the Diaspora are used to being the minority, and being in Israel completely changes that equation. Jews walk freely without any self-consciousness about their identity. Many times I've seen people who would never think of wearing a kippah on the streets of their hometown, suddenly don one during their stay in Israel, sensing a spirit of holiness that one might otherwise find only in a synagogue.

The experience of being in that atmosphere is a liberating one and has a powerful effect on many, many Jews. It enables one to discover a deep part of oneself that was previously hidden and unknown. In this regard, each individual's experience in Israel is very personal and unique.

There are a myriad of opportunities to visit – young people can come on a Birthright (www.birthrightisrael.com), Fellowships trip (www.goisrael.org), or introductory Torah study program (http://israel.aish.com/essentials/). Other can come on an Aish mission or Executive Learning program combined with touring (http://israel.aish.com/elc/).

It is unfortunate that with the ease of travel today, such a large percentage of Diaspora Jews have never visited. An essential part of themselves is yet to be discovered. They don't know what they're missing!

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4 Iyar

Trip to Israel

I will be bringing my family to Israel this summer for our first visit ever. Needless to say we are very excited. We want to have the maximum experience in the 10 days we have available. What would you recommend for us?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Thank you for writing. Unfortunately, a mistake many people make when visiting Israel is to spend all their time seeing the "sights" – i.e. mountains, beaches, museums – but they miss out on the real heart of Israel which is the Torah learning which takes place here. As it says: "For out of Zion shall the Torah come forth, and the word of God from Jerusalem." (Isaiah 2:3)

I recommend you set aside time to attend the Discovery seminar, an excellent presentation of Jewish history and philosophy. Modules include: "7 Wonders of Jewish History," "Genesis & the Big Bang" (with MIT nuclear physicist Dr. Gerald Schroeder), and "Computer Bible Codes." The seminar is held on Sundays, from 9:30 am – 6:30 pm, in the Jewish Quarter of Jerusalem (info at www.aish.com/dis/). You may be able to drop in for some classes at Aish's Essentials program – http://israel.aish.com/essentials/.

Here are some ideas of what to do in Jerusalem:

Western Wall – Schedule some quiet, meditative time at Judaism's holiest spot. For excitement and sheer beauty, the best time to be at the Wall is just before sunset on Friday, when Shabbat descends upon the holy city, and Jews from all walks of life gather to usher in the holy day.

Western Wall Tunnels – http://english.thekotel.org/

City of David – www.cityofdavid.org.il/hp_eng.asp

Aish Building – see the amazing Chihuly glass sculpture, view a scale model of the Holy Temple, and get a breathtaking rooftop view directly overlooking the Temple Mount. www.aish.com/ai/jb/

Mea She'arim – Walk through the old Orthodox section and see how the Jewish community might have looked in pre-War Europe.

Machane Yehuda outdoor vegetable market – best on Friday morning, when pre-Shabbat shopping is at a frenzy.

Yad Vashem Holocaust Museum – absolutely essential.

Jerusalem Area:

"Dig for a Day" archaeological experience – www.archesem.com

Tank Museum in Latrun – www.davidpride.com/Israeli_Armor/Armor_Main.htm

Mini-Israel – fun for the kids, see all of Israel’s sites in miniature www.minisrael.co.il

Rachel's Tomb in Bethlehem

Tomb of the Patriarchs in Hebron

Tel Aviv area:

Blind Museum - www.d-in-dark.co.il

Palmach Museum – www.palmach.org.il

Dead Sea Area:

Masada – hike up the mountain at sunrise, or ride the cable car

Dead Sea – float in the lowest point of Earth, and enjoy the healing mineral mud.

Ein Gedi Nature Reserve – hike to the waterfalls.

Tzfat – visit the old synagogues, old cemetery, mikveh of the Arizal, and tomb of Rebbe Shimon in Meiron.

Take one afternoon and volunteer:

At a food relief agency – www.yadeliezer.org/volunteer

At an Israeli hospital – www.vfi-usa.org

At a medical services group – www.yadsarah.org/index.asp?id=72

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Who is a Zionist?

I try to keep up on Israeli politics and I will sometimes see a reference to "non-Zionist Orthodox parties." I don’t understand how people who live in Israel can be "non-Zionists." What is the definition of Zionism, anyway?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Zionism is the belief that the Jewish people should have a homeland in Israel.

It's impossible to say that Orthodox Jews are opposed to the concept of Zionism, because the very idea for Zionism comes from the Bible. God made a covenant with Abraham, promising him and his descendents the Land of Israel (Genesis 15:18).

Torah Jews believe that the Jewish community in Israel is part of the Divine plan for Jewish redemption. One of the great wonders of Jewish history is how the Bible foretells the Jews' return to the Land. As a first phase of redemption, God promised to in-gather all the exiles. (see for example Deuteronomy 30:1-5, Jeremiah 16:14-15, Jeremiah 31:6-7, and Isaiah 27:12)

The question, however, regards the second part of God's covenant with the Jewish people, which mandates that Jewish existence in Israel is predicated on observing the commandments. The Torah makes this clear in many places, for example Leviticus 18:28 and Deut. 11:17.

Modern Israeli society is based largely on Western ideals, even when they conflict with those of the Torah. For example, the Jewish system of jurisprudence is the basis for every great legal system in the world. The Romans derived their judicial system from the Torah, as did the Magna Carta and the U.S. Constitution. But instead the modern Israeli legal system adopted Ottoman law! The state has often made tactical decisions that devalued fundamental principles of Jewish life.

One million Israelis are now living in the Diaspora because if the goal of life is Western ideals and material success, then there's a better version available in Los Angeles!

This in no way minimizes the great things that Israel has achieved. Indeed, the first 60 years of the modern state have been miraculous. Israel has succeeded in making the desert bloom, and in building the finest hospitals, roads, schools and industry – even amidst hardship, terror and wars. For Jews around the world, Israel has been the spark for renewed Jewish identity.

My own organization, Aish HaTorah, believes that the State of Israel is a Divine gift. Aish celebrates Israel Independence Day and Jerusalem Day, and proudly flies the flag of Israel 365 days a year above its World Center at the Western Wall. And we pray daily for the protection of Israeli soldiers who put their lives on the line for the Jewish people.

And yet, Orthodox Jews would favor an Israeli society that recognizes God and Torah as the primary driving force of the nation. This means basing the laws of the State on Judaism (e.g. observance of Shabbat and Kashrut in public) – though of course non-coercive for private individuals. And the schools would place more emphasis on Torah learning.

It has been said that the Land of Israel is the "body" which hosts the Jewish nation, while Torah is the "soul." A body without a soul is empty. We yearn for a restoration of timeless Jewish values and wisdom, to fully complete the modern Jewish renaissance in Israel.

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6 Iyar

Natural Disasters

I have watched the horror of hurricanes, tornadoes and earthquakes, plus hundreds of thousands of people wiped out in a tsunami. What is the spiritual reason behind all this?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Thank you for your thoughtful question. It is really a formulation of the classic: "Why do bad things happen to good people?" Let me try to explain:

The story is told of the king who commissioned a tapestry to be woven. In the middle of the work, someone came upon the weaver and saw a mish-mash of different colored threads, loose threads and, in general, a very messy piece of work. A complaint was issued to the king who then confronted the artist. The artist pleaded with the king for a few days to prepare his defense. After those few days he came before the king with a wrapped package and told the king, "Here is my defense." Inside the package was the completed tapestry.

The moral is that we cannot judge the work until it is completed. Moses asked to see God's face. That request was denied, but he was allowed to "see" God's "back." It is explained that Moses wanted to understand how God runs the world. The response was that it is beyond human comprehension until you see the "back." That is, until we can see the whole picture; then in hindsight it will all make sense.

While this answer may seem a "cop-out," it prevents us from trying to understand God's actions from our very limited perspective. In order for us to be able to "judge God," we need to consider God's "ground rules" for existence. Using this premise, it becomes very difficult to judge God. Why? Because we are stuck in a finite perspective of time and space, and we can therefore never be sure which rules God is employing at any given moment.

In order to begin to make sense of this, one thing we must understand is that God is in control, and there are no accidents. There has to be intrinsic meaning in our lives; otherwise we are just a random collection of molecules whizzing through space, with no real direction or purpose.

We are living in a very complex world, and in such a world, God doesn't only deal with individuals, he also deals with nations.

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7 Iyar

Trying to Escape

When the Israelites were in the wilderness and were 'craving' meat so badly, why didn't they just use some of the cattle that they had. I realize some of that was for offerings, but there had to be a few extra. This has always stuck in my mind.

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Your question was asked in the Midrash (Yalkut Shimoni - B'Ha'alotcha 736).

The answer is that they had plenty, and were just looking for things what to complain about, even if there was no reason to complain. See "Rashi" Numbers 11:1,4, that they were trying to turn away from God, and were fabricating excuses.

We see from here the inclination to move away from God, to escape into a "world" of independence.

Kurt Vonnegut's novel, "Breakfast of Champions," brings home this point in a dramatic way. In one scene, the main character, Kilgore Trout, is having a drink in a bar, minding his own business. Suddenly, he feels an awesome presence is about to enter the bar. He begins to sweat.

Who walks in?

Kurt Vonnegut. When the author of the book steps into the novel to visit to his character, Kilgore's perception of the world is changed forever. He realizes that he does not exist independently. Rather, every moment of life requires a new stroke of the author's pen. Without the author, he ceases to exist.

So what is Kilgore's reaction? He starts to run away! In an attempt to maintain independence, he tries to hide from the very source of his existence!

The metaphor is clear. God has His plans, and we are destined to either follow along, or suffer the consequences. The choice is quite clear. The only true existence is the Infinite. And why fight it?? Whenever we peel back the outer layer of this world and get a glimpse of the higher Infinite dimension, we have a moment of awe-filled transcendence. We lift beyond our finite limitations and touch eternity. Perfection itself.

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8 Iyar

New Hebrew Name

I am 22 years old and starting to take my Judaism more seriously. The problem is that I don’t have a Hebrew name. I’ve asked my parents and they can’t recall what name I was given at birth. So my question is: How do I go about selecting a Hebrew name? And how does it become “official”?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

The Jewish custom is to give the name of a relative who has passed away. This keeps the person’s memory alive, and in a metaphysical way forms a bond between your soul and the deceased relative. This is a great honor to the deceased, because its soul can achieve an elevation based on the good deeds of the namesake. You, meanwhile, can be inspired by the good qualities of the deceased – and make a deep connection to the past.

Another idea is to pick the name of a great Jew, someone who embodied qualities like piety, kindness and leadership that you aspire to. This could be a biblical character, or someone from Jewish history. Some choose a name based on the Jewish holiday coinciding with the birth. For example, someone born at Purim-time might be named Esther or Mordechai. A girl born on Shavuot might be named Ruth, and a child born on Tisha B'Av, the Jewish day of mourning, might be named Menachem or Nechama.

Similarly, names are sometimes chosen from the Torah portion corresponding to the week of the birth. Many names and events are mentioned in each Torah portion, offering a spiritual connection between the baby and that particular biblical figure.

There is an interesting story about how the Jewish reggae star Matisyahu got his Hebrew name. His English name is Matthew Miller, and the Hebrew name he received at his Brit Milah was forgotten. In Hebrew school it was assumed to be Matisyahu because of the connection between Matthew and Matisyahu. That was fortuitous for his music career, because the original Brit certificate was later located, revealing that the actual name given was "Feivish Hershel." Imagine that on the Billboard charts.

The importance of a Hebrew name was articulated by King David, who wrote in Psalms (147:4): "He counts the numbers of the stars; He gives a name to each of them." God gives names to each star, for they are dear to Him. Like the stars, no two souls are exactly alike. Everyone has his unique function in which he excels. Everyone shines a different light.

And finally, the actual process for being given the Hebrew name is to simply begin using it. Ask others to call you by that name, and ask the rabbi to say a special blessing for you in synagogue. It's as simple as that!

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9 Iyar

Kohen Marriages

I am a Reform Jew and am now looking to get married. I went to a few Jewish dating sites, and I saw some profiles which say "permitted to a Kohen." I am a Kohen, and therefore this caught my attention. What exactly are they talking about?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

A Kohen is not allowed to marry a divorcee, a convert, or someone classified as a "zonah." (see Leviticus 21:14; Talmud – Kiddushin 78a; Maimonides – Forbidden Relations 18:3)

A "zonah" is defined as a woman who had intimate relations with a man whom she was forbidden to marry according to Jewish law – e.g. adultery, incest, or relations with a non-Jew.

A Kohen is forbidden to marry these women, not because she is a bad person, but because there is metaphysical reality that is created which prevents a Kohen from being able to create the proper bond. Consider that H2O is water, and H2O2 is Hydrogen Peroxide. The difference may seem negligible, but is actually the difference is between life and death.

This is a very serious issue, and if a Kohen goes ahead and marries someone that he is not allowed to be married to, he is transgressing a Torah commandment every minute he remains married to her.

On a practical level, the kohanim, who are charged with being the spiritual leaders and role models for all of Jewry, must preserve a more scrutinizing level of holiness. The fact that a particular Kohen today may not see himself in such a lofty role does not diminish his obligation to live up to that.

There is another issue, however. It is important to check if the "Kohen" is a real "Kohen." How reliable is the Kohanic tradition in the family? Just because someone's last name is "Cohen" does not mean that he necessarily has the status of a Kohen. To be considered a Kohen, one must have an unbroken tradition, as well as other factors too numerous to mention here. (Nevertheless, most people who have the name Cohen also have the status as Kohen.)

Also, it may be that the Kohen is really a "chalal.” If his mother, paternal grandmother, etc., was forbidden to marry a Kohen, in that case the resulting son would be a chalal, not a Kohen – thereby disqualifying the "Kohen" (and his subsequent descendents) from the regular Kohanic rights and obligations.

Bottom line: If you have any questions about your status, or about that of any particular young woman, you need to speak with a reliable authority in Jewish law. If you tell me what city you're located in, I'll be happy to recommend someone you could contact.

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10 Iyar

Religious-Secular Strife

I am very disturbed at the growing divisions between the Orthodox and secular communities in Israel in particular, and in Judaism, in general. The Jewish people are so few in number that we cannot afford such sharp and bitter divisions. Something must be done to bridge the gap.

I feel this is the single greatest issue facing the Jewish people today. What can be done to correct it?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

You are absolutely correct about the severity of the problem and the urgency to find a solution.

The Talmud records that hatred was the principle cause for the destruction of the Second Temple. Factional struggle and petty vindictiveness destroyed the cohesion of the Jewish Commonwealth, condemning the Jews to 2,000 years of exile. Even when the Romans had besieged Jerusalem and total disaster was imminent, hostile groups within the city fought among themselves and plundered stores of food, causing terrible famine.

Today, as then, we have differences. What are the reasons for the religious-secular divide in Israel today? One can point many fingers – the factional nature of the political system, or the media which constantly stirs animosity in order to sell more papers.

I think it comes down to a basic lack of understanding between both sides. We differ greatly in our understanding of the authority of Torah and its role in shaping the cultural and legal character of the modern State of Israel. In short, the religious feel that Torah is that which has always distinguished our people – and in today's volatile world it is more crucial than ever to have that anchor. The secular take a somewhat opposite approach: Specifically because of Torah's unique lifestyle, it prevents Israel from full integration into the community of nations.

Indeed, this is a wide gulf. Yet because we have differences, that doesn't mean the other side is less intelligent, less well-motivated, or less desirous of truth than ourselves.

Our differences mean we disagree. Men of good will can and must disagree about matters of great importance without questioning their love or commitment for one another. Two people who learn together will battle passionately, says the Talmud, and end more committed to their friendship because their disagreements express a common search for truth.

We cannot afford for this to become polarized into a matter of "us against them." Each and every Jew is completely integral to our mission – regardless of their beliefs or level of observance. One of the spices used in the incense at the Holy Temple was the foul-smelling "galbanum," from which the Talmud (Kritot 6b) derives that even the worst amongst us are inextricably bound into the community of Israel.

Further, all Jews must be united in order for our nation to succeed. In Exodus 19:2, which says the Jewish people camped at Mount Sinai, the word for "camped" is written in the singular – to indicate that they were "like one person with one heart." Says the Midrash: If the Jewish People were lacking just one person from the 600,000 at Sinai, they could not have received the Torah.

It's all a matter of attitude. Rabbi Baruch Ber Leibowitz, one of the great rabbis of 20th century Europe, was quoted as saying: "When I will stand before the heavenly court and they ask me, 'What merit have you brought with you?' – what shall I answer? Torah? Is my Torah knowledge worthy enough to be mentioned? Fear of Heaven? Are my deeds worthy of that description? There is only one thing I could possibly claim – that I loved every Jew with all my heart. Whenever I walk in the street and I see a Jew, one thought comes to me: A blessing on his head!"

The key is that we each take whatever small steps from our own side to help build a bridge.

The Talmud says that in each generation in which the Temple is not rebuilt, it is as though it has been destroyed. Just as hatred destroyed the Temple, the only way of repair is by making the maximum effort to love every member of the Jewish people. We must seize that chance now... before famine grips Jerusalem once again.

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Source for Afterlife

I know that Judaism believes in the afterlife, but in reading the Torah I did not see any mention of that. You would think such major, essential, fundamental ideas would be openly stated. Where is this discussed?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

Maimonides writes (Teshuva 8:1) that we know of this from the Torah's statement in Deuteronomy 22:7: "You will have good and your days will be long." Without the traditional interpretation we could think it is just promising long life in this world. Elsewhere, Maimonides also mentions Numbers 24:17-18 and Deuteronomy 30:3-5.

The afterlife is discussed in detail in the Talmud, Sanhedrin Chapter 11.

Another source for the afterlife is logic: The soul, which is spiritual and therefore cannot die or decay, existed in the “world of souls” before the body was “born,” and will continue to exist after.

The reason the afterlife is not mentioned explicitly in the Torah, is because the purpose of earthly existence is to do good in this world, to give the soul a chance to elevate itself. To the extent we make the right "spiritual" choices (e.g. give charity, care for others, pray, study Torah) is the extent that we become sensitive to the spiritual reality of God. This attunes our soul to appreciate the pure spirituality of the eternal afterlife.

The famous book Path of the Just explains that the purpose of life is to enjoy God's radiance. Rabbi Noah Weinberg explains that this refers to the pleasure we get in this world from doing good. The eternal reward will come of its own accord, providing that we do good in this world. Further, the eternal reward is perhaps too intangible to be an effective motivator.

Finally, the ultimate reason for serving God and doing His mitzvot is so that we can become close to God, love and admire His essence. Thus, we should serve God whether or not there is a reward or punishment, either here or in the afterworld. (source: Maimonides - Mishnah Sanhedrin 10; Chatam Soffer Y.D. 356)

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12 Iyar

Yahrtzeit Commemoration

My mother passed away last year and now it is coming up to her yahrtzeit. Are there special things I should be doing on that day? What about the yahrtzeit of a grandparent or cousin, etc.?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

On the anniversary of death, perhaps the best-known custom is to light a candle that will burn for 24 hours. The lighting of the candle recalls the scriptural verse that says, "The candle of God is the soul of man" (Proverbs 20:27). Lighting the candle reminds us that the soul is eternal. Although a candle is extinguishable, this is only because it runs out of resources to use. Had there been more wax and wick, the flame would still be burning.

The same can be said about the soul: Even though the physical part of the person has retired, the soul continues to burn brightly. The commentary “Elef HaMagen” writes that the lighting of the candle actually gives the deceased person's soul enjoyment, as that is the one time of the year that it is able to leave its resting place and travel around the world. When it sees the candle burning for it, it receives spiritual satisfaction.

The yahrtzeit candle is lit at sunset, since the Jewish day begins at sunset.

Mourners’ Kaddish should be recited on the day of the yahrtzeit. The Kaddish does not mention the dead, but is rather a praise of God. We declare that even though we have suffered a loss, we acknowledge that God knows best, and we place our trust in Him. It is a merit for the deceased to be the cause, so to speak, of having this praise of God expressed publicly.

In addition to saying Kaddish, you should try to lead the prayer service (except on Shabbat and Yom Tov) and also say "Borchu" during the morning and evening service. Also, the Shabbat before the yahrtzeit, the mourner is entitled to an aliyah during the Torah Reading. He should also lead the Mussaf prayer if he knows how.

The story is told of Rabbi Mordechai Gifter who was flying from Cleveland to New York City for a wedding, accompanied by some of his students. Due to extreme weather conditions, the flight was repeatedly delayed, and in the end Rabbi Gifter arrived in New York too late to make the wedding.

As they were pondering why God had caused their plans to go awry, the group decided to pray the evening Maariv service, right there in the airport. At that minute, a stranger walked up to Rabbi Gifter and asked sheepishly, "May I join your minyan to say Mourners’ Kaddish?" The man explained that his father had died recently, and had come to him in a dream requesting that the son say Kaddish. "But I don't know where to find a minyan!" the man protested to his father in the dream.

"Don't worry," said the father. "I'll arrange for you a minyan!"

On the day of the yahrtzeit, the study of Mishnah is an important way to help elevate the soul. Upon its departure from the body, a person’s body finds that it is not able to function to its maximum extent, since that it was not perfected. The word itself, MiSHNah, can be rearranged to spell the word NeSHaMa, which means soul. Studying Mishnah helps perfect the soul.

The custom of learning Mishnah on the yahrtzeit involves studying the chapters whose initials letter spell out the name of the deceased. The seventh chapter of tractate Mikva’ot is also learned since that word Neshama can found in the initials.

Another custom is to give tzedakah, money to charity, on the day of the yahrtzeit.

The Sages say that on Rosh Hashana, both the living and the dead are judged. This is difficult to understand, since only the living perform deeds in this world. The answer is that this judgment of the dead is based on the influence that a person continues to have – for the good or for the bad. So if those who knew the deceased use his legacy for inspiration to help others, serve God, etc., then that is accrued merit that can benefit the deceased in the eternal world of souls. In that way the soul receives the help it needs, and the living are able to do an incredible act of kindness for their dearly departed.

Therefore, the most important part of the raising the spiritual level of a soul, iluy neshama, is that the children proceed in the path of righteousness. In this manner they bring merit to their parents (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 26:22). Of course, this can be done not only by the children of the deceased, but even by grandchildren, distant relatives, and even friends.

To learn more, read the book "Mourning in Halachah" (artscroll.com).

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13 Iyar

Why Bris?

Recently, I was at a website for expectant mothers when I happened upon a forum entitled "To circumcise or not." One Jewish woman posted a message asking for opinions on whether or not she should give a Bris to her unborn baby. She had many women respond to her (quite strongly, I may add) that it is a cruel, barbaric procedure that can traumatize the baby. People went so far as to cite medical studies proving that a Bris is traumatic for a child, decreases future tolerance to pain, increases the risk of infection, has long term psychological effects, etc.

I was horrified that people were trying to dissuade a Jewish mother from giving her son a Bris, so I posted my opinion. I explained to the woman that before she makes any decision she should find out more about the meaning and importance of a Bris. I told her jokingly that my husband, father, and brother have all been circumcised and none of them ever regretted the decision.

My questions are: Did I deal with this issue in the correct way? How can one refute these medical studies? And how can one prove that a Bris is not barbaric?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

The truth is, there is no "logical" argument for such an elective procedure. Yet circumcision has been practiced on Jewish males for close to 4,000 years, ever since Abraham was so commanded by God. Why?

Let's tackle the issues:

It is a foundation of Judaism that we are to control our animal desires and direct them into spiritual pursuits. That's why the Bris is done on the organ where many people unfortunately express "barbaric" behavior. If we bring holiness into our life there, then all other areas will follow.

Another aspect of circumcision is that it is integral to Jewish identity. This point was made quite powerfully in a movie called "Europa Europa," the true story of a young Jewish boy trying to escape detection by the Nazis. The boy looks Aryan and speaks German fluently, so he poses as a non-Jew and is eventually recruited into an elite training program for the next generation of SS officers.

This boy was on his way to a fully non-Jewish life, except for one thing: His circumcision. He couldn't hide it. And that is what kept him Jewish throughout the entire ordeal. The man survived the war, and made a new life for himself in Israel. Instead, he may have ended up becoming a Nazi officer. It all depended on the Bris.

It is a principle of Jewish life that we do not perform mitzvot based on the "practical benefit." At the same time, the mitzvot frequently have positive observable effects in our everyday life.

Regarding the medical issues, Rabbi Yonason Binyomin Goldberger writes in "Sanctity and Science":

As an operation, circumcision has an extremely small complication rate. A study in the New England Journal of Medicine (1990) reported a complication rate of 0.19 percent when circumcision is performed by a physician. When performed by a trained mohel, the rate falls to 0.13 percent or about 1 in 1000. When a complication occurs, it is usually excessive bleeding, which is easily correctable. No other surgical procedure can boast such figures for complication-free operations.

One reason why there are so few complications involving bleeding may be that, according to recent studies, the major clotting agents, prothrombin and vitamin K, do not reach peak levels in the blood until the eighth day of life. Prothrombin levels are normal at birth, drop to very low levels in the next few days, and return to normal at the end of the first week. One study showed that by the eighth day prothrombin levels reach 110 percent of normal. In the words of Dr. Armand J. Quick, author of several works on the control of bleeding, "It hardly seems accidental that the rite of circumcision was postponed until the eighth day by the Mosaic law."

Furthermore, circumcision has been known to offer virtually complete protection from penile cancer. According to a recent review article in the New England Journal of Medicine, none of the over 1,600 persons studied with this cancer had been circumcised in infancy. In the words of Cochen and McCurdy, the incidence of penile cancer in the U.S. is "essentially zero" among circumcised men.

Several studies reported that circumcised boys were 10-to-39 times less likely to develop urinary tract infections during infancy than uncircumcised boys. In addition, circumcision protects against bacterial, fungal and parasitic infections and a variety of other conditions related to hygiene. The extremely low rate of cervical cancer in Jewish women (9-to-22 times less than among non-Jewish women) is thought to be related to the practice of circumcision.

As a result of studies like these, a number of prestigious medical organizations have recognized the benefits of circumcision, and the California Medical Association has endorsed circumcision as an "effective public health measure."

The bottom line, however, is that Bris is the sign of the covenant, maintaining one’s spiritual attachment to the Jewish people.

Maybe posting this on the forum will help.